Can our relationship survive the distance and years apart?
Q. So, there's this girl. She is almost seventeen, finishing high school, and I am 18 in first year engineering. We've been casual friends for close to 2 years now. Except 5 months ago, we somehow ended up in a relationship, and turns out, we really ...
A. 20 January 2012: Hey there! I have a few things to say and mostly all are encouraging.
First of all, it is wonderful that you have developed this relationship with each other and an underlying friendship that has the potential to outlast anything.
The goo... (read in full...)
I cant orgasm during intercourse is it my fault or his?
Q. Im very physically and mentally attracted to my boyfriend, but when we had sex i NEVER orgasm, i only orgasm when he fingers me, when we have sex it lasts awhile, long enough to where i should have "gotten off" but i dont even though the sensation ...
A. 20 January 2012: It is neither his fault, nor yours - some women are highly sensitive and climax very easily, while others are the complete opposite. Try not to put too much pressure on having to climax every time and it might make it less of an issue - try ... (read in full...)
I just cant seem to like girls my age!
Q. So in a weird flip of the coin i have recently started seeing older women. I am 24 and im seeing a lady who is 34 and another who is 42. i have fooled around with a lady who was 63 last week. i really dont know what it is. i find them attractive and ...
A. 20 January 2012: You can have a real relationship with an older woman, just as you could if you found a younger woman on your wavelength too - they are out there, you just have to find them!
I agree with the other poster that you should perhaps find one woman to... (read in full...)
Do men like romantic, tender sex
Q. i love to create a romantic atmosphere (scented candles ,rose petals ,silk sheets ,nice music ,food and wine ) making love slowly ,looking into the guy eyes ,hearing his breath and pulling him closer to me.... am i too idealistic ...
A. 20 January 2012: It very much depends on the man, his mood, his desires and preferences. Some love it, others hate it, but as long as you're on the same page, it can be phenomenal! ... (read in full...)
Sticky Situation pregnant and confused.
Q. So im currently 5 months pregnant, and have been in this relationship for a little over 10 months. We certainly rushed into things real quick and not I am not only regreting the fact that we rushed it so quick but the situation im in as well. I stay ...
A. 20 January 2012: There is a lot more to life than money and a man who shares with his brother is probably a better catch than a man who is frivolous with his pennies.
I wouldn't worry too much about the ins and outs of his business, as you say, you are still ge... (read in full...)
Online fling caused my guy to walk out of a 3 year relationship?
Q. Is a stupid online fling what i had a good reason for my guy of 3 years to walk out on me and our 2 kids? I never even went meeting the guy. The worst i did was a bit of naughty chat. Would you agony aunts think he was looking for an excuse to bail ...
A. 20 January 2012: Unfortunately, to some people, cheating is cheating no matter how it happens and an online fling, no matter how silly it seems to you, could be extremely hurtful to a spouse and signifies all sorts of problems with the relationship. Emotional ... (read in full...)
Scheduled to work 2 years overseas and now I think I've met "the one"! What do I do?
Q. Why is it that when ever something is planned e.g. overseas travel someone really cool comes into your life. Ive been out of a relationship for a wee while now and around a month or so ago I was set up with this amazing guy. we have gotten to know ...
A. 20 January 2012: I would look at your options, and follow your heart but be a little practical with it too.
Talk to him about how you feel and see if he is willing to try and get work over in the UK too? Maybe you could have your cake and eat it too?
I would... (read in full...)
I was told he liked me, but he hasn't called or texted in 3 days!
Q. So I like this guy. His friend that I work with told me that the guy likes me too. I gave his friend my number to give to him... 3 days ago. The guy hasn't called or texted or anything - but his friend still insists that he likes me. Should I make a ...
A. 20 January 2012: If you are a confident person and not worried about the possibility of rejection then I say go for it and make a move yourself - give it another day though in case he plays by the 3 day rules!
Life is too short! Ask him out and see where life tak... (read in full...)
Help! I'm obsessed with my boyfriend's ex girlfriend!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend 6 months and he is the most amazing man Ive ever met. However I am completely obsessed with his ex girlfriend who he was with for 3 years. They broke up 2 years ago because he freaked out about committed pressure...
A. 20 January 2012: You need to pull yourself together, and i mean that in the nicest way possible - you are just as good as any ex gf and you can achieve anything you put your mind to, so do not compare yourself to her. Regardless of his hiostory with her, he is with ... (read in full...)
Can this kind of man turn on any kind of woman?
Q. Hello women out there. Would it be true that any man within the average range of attractiveness, taking into account looks, clothing, job, education, etc, who is also totally comfortable in his own skin, has his own goals that he's heading toward ...
A. 20 January 2012: I do not think that any 1 man could be successful with all ladies as we are all very different in our tastes/likes and a man like that, while attractive to some, might come across as arrogant to others and, therefore, a turn off.
There is someo... (read in full...)
Is this common to have chronic impotence without medical cause?
Q. I need some helpful advice here, because I'm close to lose my wife, after long marriage. I'm impotent, and I had several medical investigation, because I thought it must have a medical cause, as I didn't think, it was psychological issue. But they ...
A. 20 January 2012: If there has been extensive testing and no medical cause has been found, it doesn't mean that one doesn't exist. Having said that, the more often impotence occurs, the more it becomes a psychological issue as you think its going to happen, you get ... (read in full...)
He hardly ever wants to have sex... What's wrong with me???
Q. my boyfriend of 5 years rarely wants to have sex with me! I have explained how this makes me feel and how it kills my confidence and self esteem. but yet it seems like he does not understand....he always says I have issues meaning I am a nympho and ...
A. 11 December 2010: Im sorry but you should understand that he may NOT have a problem and you may not have one either.
It is a myth that all men like sex all the time! Just as it is a myth that all women prefer less sex more of the time!
What you have here is... (read in full...)
Unfinished business....
Q. Has anyone ever found themselves still holding on after a breakup because there's a lot a unfinished business to wrap up or plans that were cut off in mid play?...
A. 8 December 2010: I think this happens a lot - especially when it was the other person who did the breaking up. Usually there is still some underlying issue or residual feeling left but it is sometimes better to let it all go than to hang on in there if there is no ... (read in full...)
Haven't heard from LDR guy in 3 days
Q. Once again I need some help from My Agony Aunts. I'm in a LDR for 6 months now. It has its trials but I love my b/f enough to make us work. Now I have not heard from hi in three days now. No message, phonecall, emails nothing. What in the world is ...
A. 27 August 2010: I was in a LDR for years, sometimes he wouldn't email or call for days but he was working hard, then sleeping early and never had 5 minutes to call when either I wasn't working or he wasn't working etc, it was a difficult situation. 3 days of no ... (read in full...)
How can I motivate my GF to lose wight??
Q. I've been with my girlfriend now for 15 months. She's always been overweight and it did bother me, and I spoke to her about it and she said she would do something about it. She became very motivated in working out and eating right, but as ti...
A. 27 August 2010: Unfortunately you cannot make someone lose weight until they are ready to do it for themselves. As her partner you might make things worse by trying to push her too hard as she might think that you don't like her as she is, which might make her feel ... (read in full...)
I'm not masculine and am afraid I will be cheated on!
Q. I just got introduced into the "world of sex" and I feel really uncomfortable about my body. I am a virgin so I don't have experience but I feel like I am too small. I am only at most 6 inches length with at best 5.o inches around. I think I am ...
A. 25 August 2010: First of all, I think that most people feel exactly the same way when they first come into contact with the world of sex and everything for which that involves.
Most men think that they are not quite adequate enough and most women think exactly ... (read in full...)
Not on the pill, no condom! Pregnant?
Q. im 15, i lose my V 3 days ago to a 16 year old. im not on the pill, and he wasnt wearing a condom. we didnt stop for about 30mins. ist possiable for me to be pregnant?x...
A. 25 August 2010: When I was 16 I had sex with my then boyfriend. I got pregnant and my son is now 13. Suffice to say, it is always possible to get pregnant - no matter how long he is "in there" or how long you take to stop. It is also more likely that you'll get ... (read in full...)
Did he join a dating site, or is it just spam?
Q. If your man checks out an online dating website, can they get your email address or addresses without joining this site as a member? My guys says he is just getting spam from this website. But he is getting 5-6 emails a day from this site. I ...
A. 7 June 2010: You know, sometimes it is absolutely possible and plausible that a site send emails when the person is not a member. A while back I kept receiving emails from 2 different dating sites saying so and so was waiting for me or so and so wanted to ... (read in full...)
Is cryotherapy worth the cost?
Q. I went in for my regular female exam and ended up having to get a cervical biopsy. I got the results back from that, and all my doctor told me was "the abnormal cells we seen are caused by hpv." She didn't tell me if I had warts or if it was just ...
A. 26 May 2010: They lasered off the abnormal cells by the way. She did not have HPV or Warts.
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Is cryotherapy worth the cost?
Q. I went in for my regular female exam and ended up having to get a cervical biopsy. I got the results back from that, and all my doctor told me was "the abnormal cells we seen are caused by hpv." She didn't tell me if I had warts or if it was just ...
A. 26 May 2010: Hi there, your doctor does seem a little quick off the mark, and if you're worried then you may want to get a second opinion before jumping in at the deep end.
My sister had a pap smear last year that came back abnormal, she then went for a ch... (read in full...)
Wrongfully confessed?
Q. I have this friend who i have known for 10 years,he wanted to date me when we were younger but I kindly declined because he was involved with someone and did not break it off before pursuing me.We remained friends.Now so many years later I feel as ...
A. 25 May 2010: Unfortunately we can't help the way we feel and sometimes confessing our feelings is all we can do = in fact, sometimes we are compelled to do so even if we truly do not want to cause a break in either our own or their marriage.
By confessi... (read in full...)
I can't stop worrying about being pregnant, please help!
Q. Soooo, yesterday night, my bf and i were fooling around...i gave him a blow job and he finished by himself, then a little while later he fingered me. I read today that you can get pregnant this way, so i called a sexual health hotline and talked to ...
A. 25 May 2010: IT is technically possible to get pregnant in many different ways but highly unlikely in most of them.
Considering the fact that you realized the mistake at the time and acted fast enough to get the pill, you should have nothing to worry about - ... (read in full...)
Should I call him on his birthday?
Q. 25th of may is his birthday but I cant get the courage to call and i don't know If I should. We broke up on the 9th of may, he said he didn't love me anymore from one day to another (literally, cause the day before he grabbed my hands and looked...
A. 25 May 2010: I really hate to say this but I think you should let him go and not call him on his birthday.
While I know it is a sweet idea and may mean nothing other than a birthday wish, it has only been a couple of weeks since you broke up and he will sti... (read in full...)
Dating for 8 months but lacking communication. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend hardly ever starts conversations when we text (that's the only way we communicate besides Facebook now and then...he doesn't like talking on the phone), and when I pointed it out to him, he said that he's just not good at that stuff. ...
A. 25 May 2010: It seems as though you have fallen into the modern day society trap where by people no longer meet face to face or spark up conversation anymore.
Maybe he truly isn't too good with the phone (I know my husband hates to talk on the phone) but that... (read in full...)
How do I tell him how I feel?
Q. I'm in my first year at uni, and at one of the societies I got talking to a guy who's three years older than me. Since there are so many people I don't always get to talk to him, and when I do it's very very rarely just the two of us, but when I do ...
A. 25 May 2010: One thing you could do is to catch him on a day just before the summer and tell him that you're going to be really busy over the summer but would he like to meet up for a coffee if you can grab 10 minutes over that time?
Just ask him casually... (read in full...)
How do I regain his trust and interest in "us"?
Q. Well i have a problem, my ex broke up w/ me a few weeks ago he has a really bad perspective of me, he cant stand me. Until today he thought we might still have a future but now he doesn't believe that anymore. He tells me he wont ever change the ...
A. 25 May 2010: I am sorry that you're having a tough time right now and appreciate that you are having a child very soon with this man, but unfortunately trust and love, once lost, can take a very long time to regain and should not be rushed.
The only thing yo... (read in full...)
Wow! He wants to have sex with me but I feel I'm too young... Help!
Q. i was going out with this boy it lasted 2 weeks and then he dumped me. i re asked him out a few months later and he said yes and it was all ok but now he has asked me if i would have sex with him. (but not forcefully) i just laughed and changed the ...
A. 25 May 2010: You are very young and, while you aren't a "child" anymore, you aren't an adult either. If you have to question sex with someone then you're not ready - this goes for anybody at any age, and this is perfectly OK!
I first had sex at 15 and I en... (read in full...)
I can't let what my 'friend' did go, am I a stalker?
Q. I split up and got back together with my boyfriend in september last year, in the few months we weren't together a mutual friend of ours got a bit too friendly with him, flirting, sending love letters, generally coming on to him at every opportunity ...
A. 24 May 2010: I think unfortunately you're going to have to try and let this one go.
It is SO SO easy for us to have access to other people's lives online now a days that barely anything is sacred anymore.
In real life we wouldn't be able to access so muc... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship woes, please help?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship. We talk every morning, a couple times a day and every night before we lay our heads down. Last night he was out with friends until 3:30 in the morning.He never called me. I called as he just got home. This is ...
A. 23 May 2010: Hey there, I know EXACTLY where you are coming from with this issue - I was in a long distance relationship with my husband for years!! To make it worse, we were in entirely different time zones and so out schedules didn't match at all. We tried to ... (read in full...)
Husband said there were rumors at work about affair, boss knows nothing, was this for cover?
Q. my husband told me that rumors have been spread around his job about him having sex with a co-worker at work. He told me that his supervisor knew about the rumors.I later asked his supervisor about the rumors and he had no Idea what I was talking ...
A. 23 May 2010: It is very hard to tell what is going on here - the supervisor may well have said something to your husband and might now not want to confirm this to you in case he is being out of line. On the other hand, he may not have said anything to your ... (read in full...)
Wife cheating in chat room? need help
Q. Well me and my wife have been together for 8yrs this june.Well she has exchanged pics of herself online b4 and i know that and we patched that up i thought.Me and her talked and we both got the point that she is a stay at home mom we really cant go ...
A. 23 May 2010: Well, it is difficult to tell whether your wife has actually done anything wrong this time or whether your past experience has led you to make the assumption this time around that she has.
I would certainly sit down with your wife and try and ... (read in full...)
Cheating - general consensus, variety of questions
Q. I have a few general questions on cheating that I'd like to get feedback on... If your spouse cheated on you, would you stay with them? Would you leave? If you had children with them and they cheated, would you stay with them? Would you fo...
A. 23 May 2010: 1. I don't know if I would leave, I think it would depend on the reason for the cheating and if I felt that I was a cause of if it was just too much.
2. As above. Children would NOT factor in my decision to stay. You can't save a marriage... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the distance in my relationship?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for nearly 10 months now. I live in the UK and she lives on an island south of the UK. I went over there last summer and we met at a party. Since then we have seen each other on a number of occasions ...
A. 23 May 2010: Ok, I will tell you from personal experience that distance really REALLY bites the big one when you're in a relationship with someone you love - I met, and married, a guy I met online!! He lived in the USA and I lived in the UK! I was still ... (read in full...)
Are men attracted to overweight women?
Q. hey aunties and uncles. I'm going to be direct with this question because I've always wanted to know. is being overweight a real turn off for boys and do they get attracted to overweight girls? I myself am not overweight or anything but I am curious ...
A. 23 May 2010: As a woman who is 6 foot tall and overweight I have to tell you that I have NEVER found it hard to find a man.
Some men absolutely LOVE curves on a woman and the men that I have dated have said emphatically that they do not like skin and bones on... (read in full...)
I am confused, he has a girlfriend, but flirts with me, how do I handle this?
Q. Hi, i posted about this guy some time ago but now truth has been revealed and i am even more confused than ever. First of all it is honest to say that i like him. Very much. He makes me smile and laugh everyday and it was long time ago last time i ...
A. 23 May 2010: I have been in a very similar situation, with a guy whom I was very close to and friends with for a long while. We were very close and we had a wonderful time in eachothers company - we laughed, cried and just had a ball together. Thing is, he was ... (read in full...)
I haven't had Sex in a year and It's really getting me down
Q. I'm 19, I've gone a year without sex, and I feel pretty upset over it. It seems like such a terrible thing to say to your friends; "Well guys, I've not had any for a year, now". I've been in relationships, but they haven 't worked out, and so I'm ...
A. 23 May 2010: I have to say that sex is not the be all and end all in life, but I know how it can be if you have a high sex drive and you're not having sex. However, not having it for a year is never something to be down about and you shouldn't feel any doubt ... (read in full...)
17 and pregnant. Can my parents stop me from moving out?
Q. I am 17 years old and I live in Kentucky. I am pregnant. Can my parents stop me from moving in with my baby's father? Thank you. ...
A. 22 May 2010: As far as I know (and I am not a person of legal knowledge) you are bound to your parents until the age of 18 in Kentucky.
However, it may be worth seeking legal advice on the matter seeing as you are expecting.
I am sorry I cannot be of muc... (read in full...)
Advice after weight loss, please?
Q. I guess I would start with this: About a year ago I weighed almost 200 lbs and now that I am down to 145, I am noticing a lot more about myself. Normally I just noticed the stretch marks and fat that my body had decorated itself with, but now I ...
A. 22 May 2010: First of all, I want to congratulate you on your weight loss. The lines and veins you may be seeing may well be varicose veins - the only way to be sure is to check with your doctor.
There are lazer techniques to aid in treatment of this issue bu... (read in full...)
My long distance relationship has reached breaking point, what should I do?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 23, my girlfriend and I have a long distance relationship. We've been together 4 years and her communication with me has broken down completely. She's always had 'rules' that I have to follow, like I am not allowed to phone...
A. 21 May 2010: I hate to have to be the one to say this but I really think that it may be time for you to accept that this relationship is over.
If one person in the relationship is pulling away then there really is nothing much you can do to hold on to that ... (read in full...)
Am I cheating on my boyfriend, or is this harmless fun?
Q. Im really confused! Ive been with my boyfriend for about 6 weeks and i really like him. Thing is ive been speaking to a guy online for about 18 months, and we've recently got back in touch, exchanged numbers and that. Am i cheating on my bo...
A. 21 May 2010: I think you have to ask yourself why it is that you feel the need to ask this question.
If you really are intent on not meeting up with your friend of 18 months then that is all well and good, but you are still flirting with him!!
Flirtin... (read in full...)
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