Why do some people constantly disrespect others by trying to force their religeous beliefs on them
Q. This is no doubt going to be a controversial topic but here goes: I am an atheist and quite happy with my beliefs. However I quite happily respect and accept everyone else's beliefs nor do I ever disrespect anyone else's beliefs / religions etc by...
A. 30 October 2008: Why do you let it bother you so? Only you can decide what is right for you. No on else. Just give them a smile and say “You might be right, but right now I am where I want to be.” ... (read in full...)
People tell me that I'm still single at my age because I'm too picky, should I settle for someone that I don't love with all my heart?
Q. Well, you can see my age range, and I still haven't fallen in love and gotten married and sometimes I feel sad, wishing I had someone to share my life with. I have my heart set on finding someone (don't know who) that I truly love, who loves me...
A. 19 October 2008: You don’t want to be some crazy old lady with cats and no husband yet you fall for men who can’t commit to you. Yes loving, be it an animal or a human is a risky business because eventually they die or move on. But that is the circle of life. Being ... (read in full...)
I don't want to feel ugly every time I run into porn, any practical solutions for me?
Q. I hate porn. Or the entire sex industry really. And I'm not gonna lie and be all "it's degrading to women". No, I hate it because the women are so perfect. They all have big tits and tiny waists, with a round butt. They have gorgeous faces (ok, some ...
A. 18 October 2008: How about stop comparing yourself to others, whether they are porn stars or glamour models or models or pretty girls. You are unique, there is nobody who is like you. You are the only one who can do things in a certain way. You have an impression ... (read in full...)
We had great sex - but am I in love with him?
Q. This is really difficult to write about because I'm hurting so much but I need advice. About 2 months ago I became romantically involved with my best friend. We basically grew closer and closer and then he moved in to a flat literally 5 mins wal...
A. 5 October 2008: I know, love makes you want to run because its make you feel so venerable. Honesty is the best in this situation. If I were you I would tell him that I was in a panic after what happened because it was so wonderful and that fear got the better of ... (read in full...)
We had great sex - but am I in love with him?
Q. This is really difficult to write about because I'm hurting so much but I need advice. About 2 months ago I became romantically involved with my best friend. We basically grew closer and closer and then he moved in to a flat literally 5 mins wal...
A. 5 October 2008: What was the massive argument about? What was his reasons for just wanting to be "just friends"?... (read in full...)
Head over heels for a married man.
Q. I always follow my heart, no matter what. I was traveling far from home and met a marine that was stationed where I was visiting. I saw the wedding band on his finger right away, but we both were alone so we talked and kept each other company....
A. 5 October 2008:
Yes it happened, BUT it happened because you wanted it to happen. Despite you knowing he was a married man you still went ahead. I could not help but notice you saying that his wife abuses him. Then I found myself thinking that the funny thing is h... (read in full...)
Attention to all the Dear Cupid Uncles and Aunts
Q. Dear Uncles and Aunts I have noticed sometimes some of you are replying to questions that are so outdated. I cannot help but ask, don't you look at the dates of the questions? It is annoying to see some of you answering these outdated questions...
A. 5 October 2008: I would love to massacre all the questions on cupid, but don’t have the time as much as I use to when I joined a few years ago. But saying that I now answer questions I have a connection with or maybe even experienced. So what if people answer ... (read in full...)
How do you gain a thicker skin in life?
Q. For most of my life I have tried so hard to get people to like me. I'm quite a sensitive person and I was always the "nice girl." While this had it's rewards, I didn't feel I could really express myself. In recent years, I've begun stating my mind ...
A. 4 October 2008: Don’t worry, that feeling will come less and less the more you get to know yourself.
That sick feeling is years of conditioning, years of telling people what you feel they want to hear. You see when you are young you are taught by your parents, they... (read in full...)
My husband is texting a female colleague frequently, he says it's work-related. Should I be suspicious?
Q. hi, my partner keeps texting a woman from his work, i have seen his phone bill and he has replied 250 texts in one month to her, should i be suspicious? he says he was only asking for her help at work when he didn't know how to do something....
A. 27 September 2008: 250 texts in one month!! What type of work do they do?Don't they have internal phones at work? Tell him to stop making excuses and come clean.I would go with the gut feeling.... (read in full...)
Is he asking me to coffee because he's being 'nice', or is he asking me on a date? He's married!
Q. I've known this guy for about a year now. He's 11 years older than I am, married, and I'm confused about his intentions. I always made sure that we only interacted at work. I'm not going to deny that there is an attraction there, but I'm not that...
A. 21 September 2008: What is there to be confused about? You are married ,he is married.It only becomes a problem when you go behind your partners backs.Ask him what is this coffee thing about? Be direct.Once you are sipping coffee in a coffee shop outside work your ... (read in full...)
I want to seduce my 30 yr old teacher for fun. Any tips on how?
Q. Ok, how can i tell if my male teacher is interested in me? Like what signs should i look for? How do i seduce him? Im 17, a highschool senior, and he's in his 30's. So I want 2 seduce him for fun. what way can i do that? Me and him get along like...
A. 21 September 2008: OMG, what fantasy are you living in? High School is not a backdrop for Hollywood.
Let see why we are all against a 16/17yr old girl wanting to seduce her 30 yr old male teacher. Firstly your parents have entrusted the school to educate you. He, ... (read in full...)
My paramour told my husband that he used me for sex. I am now trying to rebuild my marriage but how can I get over the pain of this affair?
Q. My affair ended 7 weeks ago when my husband caught me out. I have been married for 25 years,my marraige had been going through a very bad patch for about 3 years and i decided to attend an evening class where this guy was the teacher. At first we...
A. 19 September 2008: Ha! Yes revenge, how sweet. I watched this program called “Bunny Boiler”. Sure maybe they got a kick out of destroying their ex lovers cars ect, but is it really going to make you feel better? Maybe for a short while, while he squirms. But, at the ... (read in full...)
I confronted him and found out he is married!!
Q. Ok Ive been in a relationship with my bf for 18 months and I love him so much, and he told me he loves me. Last night I went to give my friend a quick ring and realised I had no credit, so I went to use his (he was downstairs). I saw a message from...
A. 18 September 2008: What? You run...You run like the wind.
And if, no just run.... (read in full...)
My paramour told my husband that he used me for sex. I am now trying to rebuild my marriage but how can I get over the pain of this affair?
Q. My affair ended 7 weeks ago when my husband caught me out. I have been married for 25 years,my marraige had been going through a very bad patch for about 3 years and i decided to attend an evening class where this guy was the teacher. At first we...
A. 18 September 2008: What a forgiving man, your husband. He must love you a lot. Forgiving is not easy and the pain you are feeling is probably the same pain your husband is feeling.
Look you need to see this man for who he is .He enjoyed the ride till you became a... (read in full...)
Work issue: I'm infatuated but I'm married!
Q. The difficulty I have is that I am infatuated with a woman at work and I’m married. I seem to have been up and down this problem and whenever I seem to have a new understanding of where I am I fall down a snake and I am at square one again. ...
A. 30 August 2008: Congrats 15yrs of marriage! Sometimes food smells better than it tastes.
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I think he's not attracted to me anymore. What can I do to change this?
Q. i dont feel loved by my boyfriend any more.he doesnt show me any affection ..he says he loves but doesnt show it.i want to make him attracted to me again but i dont know how..please help.....
A. 28 August 2008: I have found that usually the way you feel is actually the way your other half feels as well. Show him how you want to be felt .Give him the attention you want and he will soon catch on and start paying you the compliments you are looking for. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend always tells me how 'hot' other people are.
Q. My girlfriend is always telling about how she thinks other people are hot. ALWAYS. When we watch t.v. or a movie together she always finds someone who she thinks is hot and tells me, or when i mention someone we're friends with she tells me how hot ...
A. 20 August 2008: I am sorry you are with such a superficial bitch but you can’t help that you turn her on so. Next time she throws such ignorant comment like,’you’re not big enough’ tell her to increase her pelvic floor exercises.
In my opinion I think she does not ... (read in full...)
All bets are off now here in suburbia. His porn habit has me contemplating an affair, as I feel worthless and failed as a woman.
Q. We are a middle class family, living in suburbia. My husband of 5 years watches porn Friday evenings from midnight to about 2-3am. Didnt do it in the beginning but now he says he needs it. From 5pm I see him getting ready for it. Comes home with ...
A. 17 August 2008: I just can’t believe you have put up with this for a year. The way to deal with this is not to jump from the pan into the fire. Why have an affair? Pack the addict’s bag and tell him to find a bed sit .Oh and don’t forget his computer. Tell him you ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair and now she's pregnant! Where do we go from here?
Q. Let me explain more in detail I am 46 my husband Is 36 we have been together for 12 years. I have 2 kids from a previous relationship. He want children but I can't give him any.He recently had an affair like 5 months ago. now shes pregnant,and of ...
A. 31 July 2008: I am sorry for your situation.But there is a bigger picture to your problem.Why did your man have a have an affair in the first place? He has a choice to make,as painful as it seems. Its got nothing to do with your age it has all to do with him and ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my wonderful fiance, but I don't want this amazing, loving affair to end.
Q. In Love with two people! I'm 35. Fiancé 32, Lover 21! I can't believe I have let myself get into this situation, I have a really nice Fiancé, 2 kids aged 2 and 5 we don’t argue, we still have Sex a few times a week. My problem is this a year a...
A. 29 July 2008: You know what's right and you know whats wrong.You know what is expected of you.I think the best way to make up your mind would be to drop the bit on the side and work out what is missing in your relationship.If the bit on the side can't wait for ... (read in full...)
I took my wife back, but now there's no affection from her.
Q. i have been married for 36 year my wife left me 5 years ago for someone she meet on the internet after a lot of crap i did settlement and tryed to get on with my life, it didnot work out for her i think and when we meet i took her back i love her ...
A. 6 July 2008: I agree people do change. But there seems to be a lack of communication going on between the two of you, hence you saying “it didnot work out for her i THINK.” Never assume anything EVER. If you are unhappy you need to voice yourself. Why don’t you ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of waiting to lose my virginity.
Q. I am currently a virgin I'm 19, and there is this guy that has become my friend. We've had some attraction and little feelings for each other as more than friends but because of certain situations we never engaged any further than just staying ...
A. 3 July 2008: Some say that your virginity is a gift well i want to know what is so special about losing it and what is so special about keeping it?”.....Once its gone its gone. It will only be memory, hopefully a good memory. Loosing your virginity is a personal ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 1 July 2008: She knows exactly where to hurt you.I agree with Eyes,time to get legal advise.You are a good father and she can't take that away from you.... (read in full...)
I kissed my best friend. Should I leave my boyfriend?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with a man who I like greatly.However on a recent night out with work, I got really close with my best friend from work and ended up kissing him. Although I did not plan this, we were both sober and I have been ...
A. 22 June 2008: """Or to stay in the relationship and be unhappy myself."""
I think you answered your wn question.
What good is it if you are unhappy?Your partner will also be unhappy.
... (read in full...)
Quick.. how can I make my boyfriend stay (instead of staying at a friends house) so we can try to get pregnant like we want to?
Q. quick my boyfriend wants 2 go stay a couple nights w/his friends but im ovulating n we've been tryin 2 get prego 4 awhile soo im tryin 2 figure out how 2 make him stay home without makin him feel guilty and without him thinkn tht im mad abt it or ...
A. 22 June 2008: Why do you want to get pregnant? You sound like you are rushing into this.Does he have a clue what you are up to? Have you discussed this at great length with him?... (read in full...)
When will this get easier after his cheating?
Q. Ok question to those cheated on. When will this get easier. Done the shouting, the soul searching, the anger, the bitterness, the forgiveness etc. Still love him despite everything and he is the one who is trying really hard after a silly one off ...
A. 21 June 2008: I find negative advice is usually from someone dealing with their own pain on he subject.You are the only one who knows him best and he sounds committed to fixing this. You can do it ,stay positive and when things get you down ,think before you ... (read in full...)
When will this get easier after his cheating?
Q. Ok question to those cheated on. When will this get easier. Done the shouting, the soul searching, the anger, the bitterness, the forgiveness etc. Still love him despite everything and he is the one who is trying really hard after a silly one off ...
A. 21 June 2008:
You have dealt with the whys, now all you need to do is remember the lessons learnt form this. Thinking about the intimacy between them is not helping you or him. Only you can put a stop to those thoughts when they enter your head. You also can’... (read in full...)
I want to have an affair but I don't know where to look for someone else?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having problems and he never gives me attention. I want to have an affair but I dont know where to look for someone else. Any advice? I cant go to a bar becasue I am 18....
A. 17 June 2008: It sounds like he has given up on your relationship, hence him not being bothered what you do. Do you think having an affair is going to make everything better? It sounds vengeful, and the only person who will get hurt is you. I think its time to ... (read in full...)
Separated wife dated and I can't deal with it! Help!!
Q. why cant i get over my wife dating someone when we were seperated? weve been married for 13 years, i had some withdraw problems 2 years ago when my mom died then we grew apart and she accused me of having an affair. after months of fighting my wife ...
A. 8 June 2008: Stop the blame game. You both were in the wrong, you deserted her and shut her out when you needed her the most. And she left you. Now she is back and you still looking for things to sabotage your happiness together. You have to find a common goal ... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I have no boyfriend and am only 12.
Q. i want a baby but im only 12 years of age. im a single,im good with babys i baby sit my cosin 2. i feel like im ready, but am i. how can have a baby without a boyfreind....
A. 5 June 2008: Babies are lovely, when you can give them back to their parents (lol). Twelve is a bit young to have a baby even if you think you feel ready. My daughter is eleven and she also loves babies .I think it’s your hormones are going mad in your body. ... (read in full...)
He says I should turn a blind eye to his cheating, is he right?
Q. i have been with my bf for 3 years, i knew he has been cheating. we have discussed why do men cheat? and he answered that man can have sex with other women but not having any feeling for them, so i should not get upset. as long as he is nice to me, ...
A. 5 June 2008: Snooping is besides the point.You would not have snooped in the first place if he was a proper boyfriend.Why don't you call up the girl and get the information from her.Then tell him he is a lost cause.IT'S NOT OKAY TO CHEAT.He is playing russian ... (read in full...)
Can I forgive my husband, for the awfull thing he did?
Q. This is the most bizzare situation I have been in and I am in the brink of loosing my mind. I have with my husband now for 9 years ( 2.5 years married) we are about to have our first child together. Unfortunately during blood work the doctor told ...
A. 5 June 2008: Your situation is not that bizarre, it’s actually quite common. I think people would probably be shocked at how many people do this behind there loved ones back without them ever finding out. If you did not have a STD, you probably would have been ... (read in full...)
I've never really kissed before. How should I pucker my lips?
Q. This girl and I have had this thing for each other for a very long time. We both feel ready to kiss, but I've never really kissed before. How should I pucker my lips? This is the only problem I'm running into! I've read about all this other stuff ...
A. 18 May 2008: Try http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-kiss-for-the-first-time
... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 15 May 2008: Agh!! Mac. No wonder you are a nervous wreck, you just have to look on the internet at all this information from people promising you a solution on how to act. For example I typed in ‘How to make conversation?’ and a whole lot of sites came up ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 14 May 2008: “”I can’t help being nervous and so I can’t say much! I’m nervous so when I try to act confident it comes over terribly......””
What is it that you worry about? Is it rejection? Your fear of rejection will banish you to a life of loneliness. Mac ... (read in full...)
Will having sex with this woman make me stop yearning for her, alleviate this sexual frustration so I can focus on my marriage?...
Q. I'm getting concerned about my sexual feelings for my wife, as I've been strongly attracted to a very attractive and wholesome woman at work, and I came to learn she feels the same as me, and she is also married. There has been no sex between us a...
A. 11 May 2008: Listen to Mandy she is so right. This is a warning and you need to listen, the fact that you want to act on your feelings should be very concerning to you. Talk to your wife. What you want to do can end your marriage .Do you want to end it? If so ... (read in full...)
I feel really great about myself...except for my body. I'm so upset, how can I cope?
Q. I'm glad to say I've been improving my self esteem. As a result, I'm less jealous of other girls, and less envious (baout their personalities, or how well they do in school, their talents, things like that). I feel better, as I know I'm worth a lot, ...
A. 11 May 2008: You‘ve got to stop wanting to be like someone else. You need to take control of your life. You hate Hollywood, showbiz and the media, when you don’t need to. You are in control of your thoughts, you have a choice to stop feeling and thinking like ... (read in full...)
Come on aunts and uncles stop dodging your resposibilities....
Q. I often hear the phrase 'it's not for me to judge'. If no one offers a judgement then how is right and wrong determined in society? Someone batters an old woman, 'it's not for me to judge'....Someone molests a child, 'it's not for me to judge'. Isn...
A. 9 May 2008: So you are saying people need to be more judgemental. Are you not confusing judgement with opinionated? Judgmental people wish their beliefs, their habits, and their way of life on others. They look down their noses at people who don’t live up to ... (read in full...)
Why am I cheating on a girl who is so perfect for me?
Q. I've been dating a girl for 2 years. Everything was perfect, until I met a girl about 8 months ago who I slept with, roughly twice a month, for 6 months. I have only physical feelings for this girl and do not love her what so ever. I have be...
A. 9 May 2008: Well this is how I see it, basically both of you were attempting to fulfil the need for love. You have been together for two yrs and you met a girl who you found physically attractive and had a physical affair for 6 months only to realise it was not ... (read in full...)
What does "Be Yourself" really mean?
Q. Can anyone really define "BE YOURSELF" properly, so we all know what it means? People use this expression all the time, yet it does not parse in an intelligible way. If I were to "be myself", I would never leave my land, and spend most of my life ...
A. 8 May 2008: Being yourself is the you without the ego armour.Being who you want to be and not who you think others want you to be.... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 16 March 2008: Maybe she does not believe you will carry through the threat of ending the marriage. Maybe she thinks it’s only a matter of time and you will be back. The saying “You can take a horse to water but can’t make it drink “comes to mind. We can’t tell ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 14 March 2008: I do understand what you are going through. I use to be a size 22, I don’t know how many stones I was ,I never climbed on a scale …perhaps I was in denial, I was also a couch potato who sat with a bag of chips and what ever was easily accessible .I ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 13 March 2008: Right your wife is 30stones, walking is difficult and swimming can not be fun with everyone judging her. To you loosing 3 stones was easily obtainable and visualized, put yourself in her shoes loosing what she has to, must be so scary and ... (read in full...)
My marriage has just been on self destruct and my wife won't change, I don't want to cheat again...
Q. Ok need advice. I have been married for 10 years have two kids aged 7 and 4. When i met my wife she was a size 16, over the years she has put more weight on and she is now a size 30. She does not work I have more to do with the kids than her, I h...
A. 13 March 2008: I’ve followed your post with interest and I’m feel rather sorry that even with the looming of a marriage breakup, your wife feels nothing. Why? Why has she given up? You keep mentioning that its not from a lack of trying to help her loose ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 11 December 2007: Don't be freaked out Mac,there is going to come a time when you are going to have to face what ever it is you don't want to face.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 10 December 2007: Holy crap!! You sound well pissed off. But let me just say that I can only give you generalized advice because I don’t know you from a bar of soap. Maybe I don’t know what you want and I am sorry that you are lonely and can’t find someone. But this ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 30 November 2007: How do you know that won't work?You have not tried it,and you are assuming again.Why do you always compare yourself to others? There are no rules in dating.You don't have to act a certain way to get a girl.Women don't want looks or confidence,they ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 18 November 2007: Timing and confidence...mmmm! Well as a women,if I were single on a date,I would want to know your intentions.So maybe you could say "I really think I am falling for you would it be okay if I put my arm around you?" or maybe ask if you can ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 8 November 2007: ++++"how do i belive in myself????"++++
Well you need to ask yourself...What would I like to believe? There is a saying "A belief is only a belief because we believe it" Beliefs are formed throughout our life experiences,for example your beli... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't find a girlfriend. I am tired of being alone!
Q. please help i cant get a girlfriend despite making lots of effort being a male model. Im a 27yr old virgin and its seriously getting me down with loanliness, i dont know how long i can take this frustration. I know women like me to look at but im so ...
A. 6 November 2007: +++"Thsnks, but what happens when a woman does come along and im not good enugh to get her?? "+++
NOT GOOD ENOUGH??Says who.......You? You are your worst critic.When you chat to these girls are you listening to what they have to say or are you thin... (read in full...)
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